书评内容会自动聚合在本帖中作者: april_ 时间: 2013-7-20 22:33
People always say there are different kind of love; yea probably true. But thinking more closely, the so-called love it's not actually love; it's something else.
Like: when you like someone, you appreciate the person he himself is. It is the start of relationship or friendship.
In love: when you are in love, it's a much deeper level; for some it's the feeling of thrill; for some it's the feeling of sereneness and companionship.
Love: love is more about a bond; it like the love for mom/dad or other close relatives. The love is so natural to the extend that you get no choice and you are obliged to do so.
Obsession: when you are obsessed with another person, it's a struggling with the deadly attraction that is harmful while you get no choice to break it off. It's like knowing eating too much sugar products is harmful but you can't help it.
Here are some more thoughts:
You may like a person enough to be in love with him; but to love a person does not mean you are necessary in love with him or like him any more. It may be the love out of habit.
Obsession is not love. It creates the illusion of feeling in love. The person you are obsessed with may not necessary the person you like. More or less it is the excuses you have made for him that have blinded your eyes. That's why it is an obsession cause you are struggling with yourself for someone that you told yourself he worthies you but actually you know he does not. The problem here is you enjoy that struggling and obsession.
Maybe you have mistaken "like" as "feeling in love". Going further from "like" when the time is not right is called "seduction".
Being able to like someone and appreciate who he is is the start of companionship. The pleasant friendship makes the foundation for true love; rather, the obsession is not. Love is supposed to be pleasant and enjoyable, rather than a struggling and a knot in the stomach.
Start with the right person and be sure what you want. As long as you dont create another sad love story. Sometimes it's a social responsibility to know what you are doing. 作者: 林子雯 时间: 2013-8-4 04:47
翻开书的扉页，赫然写着“2012年4月21日购于当当网”，之所以半年后的现在又拿起这本书，是因为昨天慧姐说，她结婚了。我这才想起四月份刚在看这本书的过程中，一直想把这本书推荐给她的，那个时候她心情不太好，而我又很希望她幸福。几乎是本能的，我认为这本书的一些文字，能够帮助她。
昨天问慧姐要了地址，准备把书寄给她，寄给她之前我又看了一下原来做的笔记，想想还是应该写个读书笔记，自己也应该常常看看。