We already know enough to lead perfect lives. We have all read the golden rule and the Sermon on the Mount. Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction.
Part One - Fundamental Facts You Should Know About Worry
1． RULE 1:
If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in "day-tight
compartments". Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.
RULE 2: The next time Trouble-with a capital T- comes gunning for you and backs you up
in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
a. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?"
b. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst-if necessary.
c. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst-which you have already mentally agreed
to accept.
RULE 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your
health. "Business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."
2．the best possible way to
prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm,
on doing today's work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for
the future. By all means take thought for the tomorrow, yes, careful thought and planning and
preparation. But have no anxiety.
3．When the cruel Chinese war lords wanted to torture their prisoners, they would tie their
prisoners hand and foot and put them under a bag of water that constantly dripped ...
dripped ... dripped ... day and night. These drops of water constantly falling on the
head finally became like the sound of hammer blows-and drove men insane
Part Two - Basic Techniques In Analysing Worry
RULE 1: Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "
half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they
have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."
RULE 2: After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
RULE 3: Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decisionand
dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
RULE 4: When you, or any of your associates are tempted to worry about a problem,
write out and answer the following questions:
a. What is the problem?
b. What is the cause of the problem?
c. What are all possible solutions?
d. What is the best solution?
In A Nutshell
1. Develop a deep, driving desire to master the principles of conquering worry.
2. Read each chapter twice before going on to the next one.
3. As you read, stop frequently to ask yourself how you can apply each suggestion.
4. Underscore each important idea.
5. Review this book each month.
6. Apply these principles at every opportunity. Use this volume as a working handbook
to help you solve your daily problems.
7. Make a lively game put of your learning by offering some friend a shilling every time
he catches you violating one of these principles.
8. Check up each week on the progress you are making. Ask yourself what mistakes you
have made, what improvement, what lessons you have learned for the future.
9. Keep a diary in the back of this book showing how and when you have applied these
principles.
Part Three - How To Break The Worry Habit Before It Breaks You
RULE 1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the
best therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers".
RULE 2: Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things-the mere termites of life-to
ruin your happiness. Remember "Life is too short to be little.".
RULE 3: Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: "What are the
odds against this thing's happening at all?"
RULE 4: Co-operate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your
power to change or revise, say to yourself "It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
RULE 5: Put a "stop-loss" order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing
may be worth-and refuse to give it any more.
RULE 6: Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust
为了今天
Just For Today
1. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true,
that "most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Happiness is
from within; it is not a matter of externals.
2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything
to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit
myself to them.
3. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not
abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will
not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and
concentration.
5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn
and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don't want to do, as William James
suggests, just for exercise.
6. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as
possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticise not at all, nor find
fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.
7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life
problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep
them up for a lifetime.
8. Just for today I will hav作者: 我楽苦 时间: 2013-7-30 04:41
FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY
RULE 1: if you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in "day-tight compartments". don't stew about the future. just live each day until bedtime.
RULE 2: the next time Trouble--with a capital T--comes gunning for you and backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
a. ask yourself, "what is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?"
b. prepare urself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.
c. then calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
RULE 3: remind urself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."
RULE 1: Get the facts. remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "half the worry in the world is caused by ppl trying to make decisions be4 they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."
RULE 2: after carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
RULE 3: once a decision is carefully reached, act! get busy carrying out ur decision--and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
RULE 4: when u, or any of ur associaties are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:
a. what is the problem?
b. what is the cause of the problem?
c. what are all possible solutions?
d. what is the best solution?
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HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABBIT BE4 IT BREAKS U
RULE 1: crowd worry out of ur mind by keeping busy. plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers".
RULE 2: don't fuss about trifles. don't permit little things--the mere termites of life--to ruin ur happiness.
RULE 3: use the law of averages to outlaw ur worries. ask urself:" what are the odds against this thing's happening at all?"
RULE 4: co-operate with the inevitable. if you know a circumstance is beyond ur power to change or revise, say to urself "it is so; t cannot be otherwise."
RULE 5: put a "stop-loss" order on ur worries. decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worthand refuse to give it any more.
RULE 6: let the past bury its dead. don't saw sawdust.
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SEVEN WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING U PEACE AND HAPPINESS
RULE 1: let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courages, health, and hope, for "our life is what out thoughts make it".
RULE 2: let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. let's do as General Eisenhower does: let's never waste a minute thinking about ppl we dont like.
RULE 3:
A. instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. let's remember the Jesus healed ten leper in one day--and only one thanked Him. why should we expect more gratitude than Jesus got?
B. let's remember that the only way to find happiness is not expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.
C. lets remember the gratitude is a "cultivated" trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
RULE 4: count ur blessings--not ur troubles!
RULE 5: lets not imitate others. lets find ourselves and be ourselves, for "envy is ignorance" and "imitation is suicise".
RULE 6: when fate hands us a lemon, lets try to make a lemonade.
RULE 7: lets forget our own unhappiness--by trying to create a little happiness for others. 'when you are good to others, u r best to urself.'
RULE 1: unjust criticism is often a disgusting compliment. it often means that you have aroused jealousy and ency. remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
RULE 2: do the very best u can; and then put up ur old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of ur neck.
RULE 3: lets keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticise ourselves. since we cant hope to be perfect, lets do what E.H.Little did: lets ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.
SIX WAYS TO PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRY AND KEEP UR ENERGY AND SPIRITS HIGH
RULE 1: rest before u get tired.
RULE 2: learn to relax at ur work.
RULE 3: if u r a housewife, protect ur health and appearance by relaxing at home.
RULE 4: apply these four good working habits
a. clear ur desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
b. do thind in the order of their importance.
c. when u face a problem, solve it then and there if u have the facts necessary to make a decision.
d. learn to organise, deputise, and supervise.
RULE 5: to prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into ur work.
RULE 6: remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. it is worrying about insomnia that does the damage--not the insomnia.
作者: komo 时间: 2013-8-14 17:30
i like it very much.it is a wonderful book which can go to your heart.作者: Chen 时间: 2013-8-15 12:41
继 How to Win Friends and Influence Peolple （中文译为《挑战人性的弱点》）之后，此书为 Dale Carnegie 的又一力作。
正如作者在序言中所言，此书属于作者在给 YMCA （基督教青年协会）夜大学上课期间所写的教本。主要内容包括与《挑战人性的弱点》体例类似的一个个忠告，以及不少成功事例的文章汇编。
作者通过多年对人际关系、个人心理调适的研究，以及对大量文献的检索，整理得出了本书。应该指出的是，本书不是一本“严肃”的社会科学论文，而是一本通识读本。对于我们生活在繁忙社会压力之下的人，具有特别的阅读意义。作者: alex 时间: 2013-8-23 09:30
About 3 months ago, I had a a casual meeting with this book, At that time , my colleague was reading it. he told me this book could help us take worry away and in the meantime we could go over the words. So i picked it up and read it. From that time , i indulged in this book by it's wonderful stories and it's brief but brillant adages.
If you still didn't read this book, i strongly recommend that you should have a cup of cofe and pick a peaceful afternoon and read it in the sunshine. i promise you should get a lot of bennefit from this book.Good luck !
